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I gathered years of text messages as evidence for family court, scrolling through hundreds of upsetting messages, screenshotting them one-by-one, TERRIFIED I'd missed the ones that mattered and lose my case.
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Yes. OurFamilyWizard message reports are supported.
On Choose your messages, select OurFamilyWizard, iPhone messages, or both.
The imported OurFamilyWizard conversation is stored for this session only. If the file cannot be read, or you cancel, you return to Choose your messages.
OurFamilyWizard contacts appear separately from iPhone and WhatsApp contacts.
AppClose and other co-parenting apps are not supported yet.
Dispute Buddy is a desktop app, so you download and run it on your computer then connect your iPhone to analyse and export messages.
You can use Dispute Buddy with one iPhone (or iPad).
You can download the desktop app onto as many computers as you like.
If you need to export messages from more than one phone, contact us at support@disputebuddy.co or click "Talk to a human" in the app.
It finds patterns that show::
Coercive control
Gaslighting
Emotional abuse
Financial abuse
Child welfare concerns
If you're looking for specific things that happened eg
When your child broke their leg
An argument about an engagement ring
When the children went to swimming lessons
You can do that after you've downloaded the Dispute Buddy Report to your desktop
This is how you search for these themes, ideas and events in your texts:
Download and save your Dispute Buddy report to your computer
Open the PDF in your usual program (eg Preview or Adobe or similar)
Hit ctrl-f on your keyboard
You'll be able to search for keywords and themes in the PDF
We have very little information on you. We do that on purpose because one of our company values is 'good for all'. We make decisions that are good for you, good for us, good for everybody. Keeping your data is not good for anyone.
What we can see:
Your email address: so we can contact you if you need suppport, and also so that we can match you up with your subscription.
The name you enter on the first screen in the app: this is the name that we put on your message report at the end
Date ranges: we can see the date range that you enter to do the message export. This is useful for us to give technical support
The number of texts our system is processing for you
Which screen you are progressing through in-app
What we can't see is:
Your contact that you search for
Any of your texts, messages, videos, images
Nothing at all from your iPhone
Basically we don't know anything personal about you apart from your name and your email address
I'm sorry, we don't do discount codes!
However, depending on your country, we offer Klarna so you can split your payments.
Just select the option at checkout.
Your Dispute Buddy account allows you to download text messages from one iPhone.
You can download your texts to as many computers as you want.
If you want to download messages from more than one iPhone, just message us at support@disputebuddy.co or click "Talk to a human" in the app.
We'll ask you a few questions and if that goes well, we can up your limit for you.
To connect a second iPhone:
We chose something to make it easy to explain away to anyone.
Your bank statement will show BUDDY APP
This is a really common question and I can tell you the answer is no.
When you run Dispute Buddy on your computer, the only place that activity occurs is on your computer.
No one on your phone gets notified that you're downloading texts.
Dispute Buddy can be used in any country.
For phone messages, you need an iPhone. Android phone messages are not supported. You can also import an OurFamilyWizard Messages Report PDF without connecting a phone.
Message history PDFs can include texts in any language.
Messages of Interest and Full Behaviour Analysis currently work with English, Spanish, French, German, Portuguese, Italian, Dutch, Russian, Chinese, Japanese, Korean, Arabic, Polish, Turkish, Swedish and Czech.
Most people using Dispute Buddy are in Australia, New Zealand, the United Kingdom and the United States.
The Dispute Buddy report's message history will look exactly how it looks on your phone when the message was deleted.
Apple changes how deleted messages are shown from time-to-time.
It might say 'this message was deleted' in the thread.
But Dispute Buddy can't recover the content of the deleted message.
Similarly, if you want to export older messages that are in your iCloud, you'll need to see the messages on your iPhone for them to be exported by Dispute Buddy.
Dispute Buddy is an app that you download onto your computer desktop.
You can still pay for it on your iphone and then go on to your computer.
On your computer, go to www.disputebuddy.co/download
Launch the app from there
The longest step is encrypting and indexing messages from an iPhone. Set aside about an hour for that.
Keep the iPhone connected to your computer and keep the computer connected to power until Dispute Buddy tells you it is safe to unplug the phone.
If you are using an OurFamilyWizard Messages Report without iPhone messages, you skip the phone and encryption step.
If encrypted messages from an earlier session are still on this computer, reconnecting the iPhone is a short unlock and decrypt step. You only need to re-index for about an hour if you need newer messages.
After that, select your contacts and dates, choose a report type, and generate the PDF.
Dispute Buddy runs on any modern Windows PC or Mac. If your computer is really old or has a very slow processing speed, this can impact the time taken to encrypt the data or generate reports.
There are three report types to choose from.
A chronological, searchable PDF of the messages from the contacts and dates you selected.
Everything in Messages only, plus a timeline of flagged messages. This report does not include an analysis write-up.
Everything above, plus an analysis of patterns including coercion, manipulation, bullying and harassment.
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The last two reports use your behaviour-analysis allowance.
Before a behaviour-analysis report starts, the app warns that the findings can be hard to read. You can choose to analyse both sides of the conversation or only messages you received.
If your selection is over the message or size limit, the app warns you that older messages will be dropped.
Your finished report is a PDF that you download to your computer.
Dispute Buddy encrypts and indexes the messages on your iPhone so you can choose which contacts and dates to include in a report.
This takes about an hour. Keep your iPhone connected to your computer, keep the computer connected to power, and watch the phone for passcode prompts. You may need to enter the passcode on the iPhone once or twice.
First-time users see three optional onboarding questions while encryption starts. You can skip them.
Dispute Buddy tells you when encryption has finished and it is safe to unplug the phone.
If encrypted messages from an earlier session are already on this computer, reconnecting the iPhone is a short unlock and decrypt step. Choose re-index only if you need messages newer than the existing index.
Once the messages are ready, select contacts and a date range, then choose one of the three PDF report types.
Here's what you'll need to download your texts for court when you are downloading texts from an iPhone to Windows/PC
- Connect your phone
Use an Apple (or good quality) cable to connect your iPhone to your PC. Drivers are installed automatically when you set up the Dispute Buddy app.
- Go to www.disputebuddy.co/download
- Launch disputebuddy.exe from the downloads folder
- Follow instructions to install the Dispute Buddy app
- Open Dispute Buddy from your Windows Start menu
Here's what you'll need to download your texts for court from an iPhone to a Mac
You'll need an Apple cord to connect your iPhone to your computer. You need to use an Apple cord, cheap ones don't work.
Go to www.disputebuddy.co/download
Open DisputeBuddy.dmg from the downloads folder
Drag Dispute Buddy icon into Applications folder
Open Applications folder
Launch the Dispute Buddy app
We cannot tell you what monitoring or security policies apply to your work computer, so check whether using it is safe for your situation.
For iPhone messages, Dispute Buddy creates an encrypted index on the computer. That index can remain there after you close the app, so you can reconnect the iPhone for a short unlock and create more reports without another hour-long index.
An OurFamilyWizard import is stored for the current session only.
If you choose Full Behaviour Analysis, the selected messages are sent to Dispute Buddy's secure cloud for analysis and deleted when the analysis is complete.
The PDF is downloaded to your computer. Delete the PDF and any locally stored Dispute Buddy data yourself if you do not want them left on a work computer.
WeChat isn't supported at the moment, but this feature may be added in the future.
You do not need to create an account or password to use Dispute Buddy.
We take the email address that you used when you purchased the app and register you as a subscriber with that email address.
That's why, when you launch the app you need to enter the same email address that you used to purchase the app.
If you've forgotten which email you used, just email us at support@disputebuddy.co and we can have a look for you.
Dispute Buddy cannot read messages from an Android phone.
Phone-message encryption currently supports iPhone only. There is no Android release date.
If the messages you need are in an OurFamilyWizard Messages Report PDF, you can import that report in the Mac or Windows app without connecting an iPhone.
“Dispute Buddy is in your corner, rooting for you to succeed every step of the way. I will be here helping you through this. I built Dispute Buddy to make this awful process much easier for you. It's powerful and validating to see the truth in black and white. Message me at jenny@disputebuddy.co to tell me what you think!”